Wednesday, December 31, 2014
Terrazza Tales
Terrazza Tales
In
a recent yarn, I went into how, from time to time, we
had entertained the idea of trading a roof atop our home in Calitri for a
terrace. The idea eventually germinated
into action as we secured a builder but, unfortunately, had to depart before
work could begin. From a distance, as
issues arose, we supervised as best we could through emails, hoping all would
go well as Nicolo and Canio performed architectural surgery. Then most recently, I recounted how on a
return visit we experienced the finished product, only to see me suffer a back
injury. Fixated on presenting my tale of
woe, I never adequately did justice to Le
Scale verso il Paridiso (The Stairs to Heaven) or atop the stairs, Paridiso itself. Here, I'll do my best to rectify that lapse.
While
we had a very good idea what to expect from the photos
we'd received chronicling the builder's progress, experiencing it that first
time was still a very special moment. In addition to surpassing any picture, it
had completely transformed our space.
Our bedroom, which due to its emptiness had seemed huge, now appeared
connected and functional, having taken on a more lived-in feel. A black, powdered, metal stair-frame now ascended
a wall once taken-up by Maria Elena's dresser.
It was important that no part of this structure, rising over the
entrance to the room as it did, be allowed to clip the doorway. Thankfully it hadn't. As large as it was, it was apparent that for
a custom fit in the limited space available between ceiling supports, it had
been partially made and definitely assembled in our bedroom. We were surprised to learn that its wooden
stair-treads were hewn from strong, straight-grained American chestnut. Now cherry stained, they'd traveled a long
way to serve this purpose. As we had
requested, we also noticed that the bottom three steps, in order to make it
easier to access the stairs when approaching from the entryway, had no
associated railing. All looked just
perfect, just as ordered and definitely attractive.
You
can imagine then, how our first climb up "The Stairs
to Heaven" was intentionally slow and deliberate as we tried to take in
every feature, however minor. Hard to
believe, but we practically savored the rise and depth of each tread as, one behind
the other, we made our assent. In early
project discussions, just how steep the stairs needed to be and how far they'd
extend, following their turn along an adjacent wall, had been at issue. We were concerned, once the stairs turned,
how far they might extend into the room. Again, the resulting fit and feel were
perfect. We especially loved how the
exterior wall undulated and at the top how it curved rather than join the
abutting surface along a straight line.
We asked for rustico (rustic)
and that's just what we got. As we made
our way, a hand rail to one side steadied our climb. Ascending the stairs, this railing extended
only to the level of the ceiling, however.
Only later did we realize we'd need an additional handrail on the opposite
wall to assist in getting down, especially when carrying something. Tonino, the man who had fashioned the stairs,
would literally have to "handle" it, pun intended. Reaching the top of the staircase, above the
landing and still higher above a switch panel, we noticed a hose, serving as a
conduit, protruding from the wall. From
it some wires, connected to a single dangling bulb, asked for attention. Moments later I realized the same situation
existed on the terrace. It wasn't long
before that light bulb of realization in my head turned on, for although wiring
and switches had been provided, light fixtures, beyond this basic "dangling
bulb" form of illumination, were not! We hadn't expected anything as exquisite as a Murano
glass fixture per say, but something beyond basic contractor shabby-chic would
have been nice.
A
sharp left turn at the top and a step later saw us, for
the first time, emerge onto the terrazza
(terrace). By this time it had grown early
evening, the sky gone to pink, but even then, as Mare said and would repeat every
time she'd emerge onto the terrazza,
"It takes your breath away." When
you walk into an area for the first time, each of us is grabbed by some detail,
whether large or small. It was the expanse
of muted, earthy, reddish terracotta tiles, gridded in a charcoal colored
grout, all 26 sq meters of it, that first caught my eye. The plastered walls were bleach white,
something else for the "to do list" that awaited me once we settled
on a color. Along the bottom of each
wall, a kickboard of the same tile material inched up for a neat finish. Although empty at the moment, it came
together in a inviting and appealing scene.
From
the deck's surface, my eyes next flashed to four niches
that had been grafted into the surrounding walls. Serving as shelves, they give the space added
old world character. Various materials
had been cobbled together in their construction. Some recycled our old half-pipe roof tiles along
their edges while another featured mummoli
insulating hollow cylinders salvaged no-doubt from some ancient ceiling. Stone slabs served as the base of each
shelf. Interestingly, a number of shelves
contained electrical outlets. Their
variety, varied sizes and shapes, right about mid-wall height, would be perfect
for candles, a home for a cork screw or two, and seeing we had power available,
small lamps, even a radio.
It
is common in the Borgo, along with rocks used to hold
down roof tiles in windy conditions, to see weeds sprouting on roofs and at
home in gutters. Dust in the air carried
by sultry Sirocco winds, born in Africa, provide the organic material. Seeds float by and nature eventually does its magic. Before long, unless removed, a shangri-la
hanging garden is on the way. Depriving
the rain any chance to flood our terrace, some new gutters had been installed and
in other places cleaned. From the new
look of some of the rounded roof tiles on an adjacent building that fed a
gutter, it looked as though they had been repaired, making the roofline straight
and neat. No weeds yet! Then again, maybe I should look at the
gutters as a sort of garden in the concrete maze of the Borgo.
Lastly,
a waist high iron railing connected the terrace to the
sprawling scene spread before us. It
compelled you to turn your head toward the pastoral countryside lying beyond
this barrier at tiles end. High up as we
were, it was as though we teetered on the brink of a precipice, at the edge of
nothing. The distant horizon and landscape
of undulating hillocks, fractured with dusty country lanes, adding kilometers,
not meters, to our home. There had been
no way to predispose us to this scene since photos could not do justice to its
reality there
under a delirious evening sky. From images, along with bits and
pieces of information, we'd extrapolated ahead, all the while anticipating in
our minds what the finished project would be like. Only your eyes could appreciate
the majesty of this undulating sea of peaks and languid valleys layered toward
the horizon. The scene, though steady, we
soon realized seemed to change dimension as the teasing light of morning
transitioning into afternoon and beyond, before being extinguished by the
western horizon. As hours passed and
shadows shifted, the expansive panorama revealed infinite, almost
multi-spectral gradations in the scenery ... and what a scene it was.
Toward
our left lay Mount Vulture, now thankfully an extinct
volcano. With what remains of its
saw-toothed caldera, it dominates the horizon.
Ancient lava flows have created a soil rich with minerals, in which
today's Aglianico grapes thrive.
Originally a Phoenician grape, they were brought there by Greek settlers
long before the age of Rome. Later, Aglianico
became the prime ingredient used to make Falernian wine, a wine which once
reigned even over mighty Roman consuls and dictators. Along these verdant slopes, and still beyond,
farther east, lie sites of historic carnage.
Hannibal and his army surely glimpsed its summit when at Cannae in 215 BC
they slaughtered 55,000 Romans in a single day.
Much later in WWII, its far slope descended to an American B-24 bomber
base on the outskirts of Venosa. On a
foreign morning for many a crew, this dramatic vista was the last sight they'd ever
see when, fully loaded, they failed to clear its summit on takeoff. In an odd twist, in Venosa today, while all
evidence of this airfield has disappeared, reclaimed once more as farmland,
pieces of Marsden-matting, a perforated steel material used to make runways,
can be seen ingeniously incorporated into basement windows throughout the town. They make potent grappa brandy from discarded
grape skins, seeds and stems, why not homes from the leftovers of war?
Swinging right,
along the crest of distant ridgelines, we glimpse little towns like Rionero,
Sant'andrea, Ruvo del Monte, and Rapone. Continuing on, our sight naturally travels along
the ridgeline of the once celebrated Appian Way, the Roman road that connected
Rome to the port of Brindisi, where history tells us Roman legions boarded many a ship for conquests
abroad. Still farther right, we settle
on the distant shiny dome of the largest observatory in all of
Europe, at Castlegrande, before finishing our dizzying head swing having arrived
at Pescopagano, clinging as it does to its sloping mountain foundation far to our
right. Author
Hilary Cooper once wrote, “Life is not measured by the number of breaths we
take, but by the moments that take our breath away.” Here, undeniably, was one of those moments,
fortunately one we could experience again and again. We had finally been freed from the walled
confines of the small and sloping courtyard outside our front door. That first night, we indulged in an antipasto-like
dinner of salami, cheese, salty bread and wine by dangling bulb-light under a
star studded sky, freed from the confines of walls. Mesmerized, we watched as filaments of light from
distant towns added to the evening ambiance as each twinkled to life.
We
spent the first few days, beginning at dawn's first glimmer sitting
on the terrazza, putting our bedroom
back together. While thinking about how we
might decorate the terrace, we first rearranged the limited bedroom furniture
we had and spent time re-hanging shelves and pictures. It was reassuring, right off, to find that
our small two-seat couch fit in the restricted area beneath the stairs, making
for an inviting space to sit and read. We'd
waited a long time for this to materialize, made a blizzard of decisions before
and after we departed, dared greatly that all would go right, and worried over the
outcome. By all accounts, although we
may have been brash, we had also been fortunate. Just like the bedroom furniture, things were
falling into place.
Our
friend, American Joe, offered us the use of his truck, a
small FIAT pick-up on the order of a Ford Ranger. You don’t see many trucks in Calitri other
than the omnipresent Ape that, given
a rich imagination, approaches something on the order of a truck. A full bed, Hemi, V8 Ford F150 with dual rear
wheels would be the talk of the town! Short
of that, Joe's little roadworthy stick-shift truckster was just what we needed.
It took Mare and I a few trips to and
from Naples and later Altripalda to find and transport the various items of
furniture we’d decided upon for the terrace.
Our first roundtrip had been for a barbecue, which to me is essential outdoor
furniture. While in Italy, I'd missed
being able to grill (and sometimes burn our dinner), all the while dodging the
smoke. It's easy for me to outrun my
imagination. As a willing victim then of over-expectation of grand occasions, this
one was a four valve monster from the US.
When I'd replaced the regulator for an Italian equivalent, it worked
just fine connected to a local gas bottle.
We'd also been fortunate especially with the table and chair set and
again later with the cantilevered umbrella we found. It was end of season and in the spirit of
making room on the display floor, both these items, just the ones we liked,
were on deep discount. It was definitely
one of those cases when right place met right time. In fact, because we had to make multiple
trips due to space limitations, when we returned, the prices had again been
reduced. Something was amiss, almost
oxymoronic in its oozing contradiction - the more you buy, the more you
save. It's just amazing how delightful it
can be going broke, saving money!
We
were so looking forward to seeing the terrazza completed, ready to enjoy, that lugging, tugging and
toting our purchases into place was more a labor of love, then work. Then again, I recall the work part. Never let it be said getting to “Heaven”
would be easy! The toughest parts were
negotiating the stairs with our purchases and dealing with the cement slabs used
to hold down the umbrella - but lugging that Italian size gas bottle into place
certainly deserves an honorable mention.
One slab needed to be cut along its diagonal into triangles for a better
fit. This meant hauling it back to the
truck and a short trip to visit my friend Canio, the marmo (marble) man. I'd met this
particular Canio a year or so earlier, when he'd made porcelain plaques from
pictures I'd provided of my parents. Their
images are now fastened to their cemetery headstone. Today, they have the conspicuous honor of
being the sharpest looking couple in St Joseph's Cemetery, especially since no
one else has anything like this Italian tradition of personalizing a headstone.
And
then there were my brief days as a budding Michelangelo,
only in my case with skill and soaring scaffold replaced by an unsteady hand on
a step ladder. The exact
name of the color we’d selected was Curcuma
80, Fassade A1, ApmhiColor W Base 1 3L, or getting away from hardware store
chemist parlance, simply yellow. Funny how
many yellows there are to sift through.
I can add that this particular batch was a bright saffron-yellow variant. It took a few days of off and on work to
complete, since it got hot at times up there.
The toughest parts were the tight spaces in and around the built-in shelves.
It took a tiny brush on the order of the
kind you get in a child's watercolor set.
It was interesting how, once I’d brushed it on, the color, like the view
itself, seemed to shift with the light.
With our rooftop perch predominately facing east, it was at its
brightest by late morning then faded throughout the afternoon to an ever-deepening muted hue. In the honeycomb of humanity in the antico Borgo of Calitri, I’m sure it is
now quite visible from a distance – if, that is, you know where to look.
Everything finally in order, including
light fixtures, the first visitors to see our terrace were actually staying with
us as house guests. In fact, it wasn’t a
day after picking up Jack and Dotty in Naples that we put them to work as they
joined us in getting ready to host a party, offering weight to the adage,
“there is no such thing as a free lunch!”
While we were getting ready, three vacationing NYC
couples including Peno, the owner of Rossini's Restaurant on East 38th,
Manhattan, happened to stroll by below our windows. Their New York accents, tinged with some Long
Island brogue, had given them away.
Coming inside, and seeing we had plenty of this spectacular scenery to
share, it wasn't long before they took Le
Scale verso il Paridiso for a brief look-see. We recently reciprocated. Rendezvousing with Jack and Dotty, we splurged
on a entertaining music and food filled evening at Rossini's!
Finally prepared, we enjoyed a number of
gatherings with friends on the terrazza in
celebration of its completion. The
first, along with Jack and Dotty, was early on a sunny Tuesday afternoon. All told there were eleven of us. Our friends brought along wine, dessert dishes
and salads. Tired as we were, we used
the Tre Rose Osteria downtown for
trays of brasole, lamb cacciatore and
a veritable trough of cingul, a local
pasta favorite. No fusion fare here, this was strictly Italian. I didn't get to use the barbecue
at all that go. We talked, told stories
and jokes and of course ate long into late afternoon, long enough that we
eventually didn't need the shade of the umbrella. A few spills of wine, definitely a waste especially
in Italy, provided a perfect way to christen the terrace, but more importantly,
proved that we had the proper run-off toward the gutters. Oh, there was one other thing we’d established
- our bedroom ceiling could clearly take the combined weight!
Now properly inaugurated, a week or so later we had another
party. This one really a transplanted
dinner party. My back had been acting up
by then and friends, Gerry and Bernie, gladly relocated a
party they had planned to our home, since it would have been difficult for me
to get to theirs. This time, with the judicious
help of a strong dose of Ibuprofen, I got to grill the sausages and steaks that
Gerry brought along. I must add that
they came out just great. Our dinners finally
tucked away, we talked to each other sideways as we stared, wide-eyed until our sight failed, far off toward
the stupendous scene bathed in an
autumnal glow. It only adding to
a wonderful feast, thoroughly enjoyed by one and all.
The Romans, who once walked this land of
enchanting vistas had an expression, vita
brevis, life is short. Handed down through the centuries to today, it
remains elegantly brief and certainly true. Eventually, for each of us, this realization occurs
at some point, some even referring to it as a mid-life crisis. Whatever we call it, we soon understand that
we should do what we love in what time we have.
For us, it is travel and its endless opportunity for adventure.
Let me suggest that the pleasure of travel begins with anticipation. We had long anticipated the day of our
return. All the while we counted the
days, wondered, imagined, and as if in the arms of Morpheus,
dreamt about what we'd find when we
entered our home to experience, for the first time, our new terrazza. Would we be pleased or disappointed? Would it be thumbs up or thumbs down on the
potential folly of a wild idea? "You
want to what, cut your roof off?"
Maybe all the combined positiveness (is there such a word?) of our
anticipation had been prayer-like, for our entreaties had definitely been
answered. We loved what we found. Anticipation had eventually given way to real
life, when reality puts flesh to the imagined.
Home in the States once again, we are already planning and of course
anticipating what it will be like to return for another first, this one the
arrival with our daughter and her family.
Time
to lock the door, travel and enjoy your awayness! You might even knock on ours, take that flight
of steps to sit and sag with us as we contemplate what goes on in all those
houses below us, imagine what lies on the other side of that hill, down that
dusty white road and just beyond those mountains. A word of caution, however. Be sure not to over exert yourself on the
climb. Save at least a mouthful of air
because as we discovered, beyond all our anticipation, it will surely "Take
your breath away."
From that Rogue Tourist
Paolo
For related photos, click
here on Eyes Over Italy. Then look for and click on the photo album
entitled "Terrazza Tales".
Sunday, November 30, 2014
With a Little Help from My Friends
With a Little Help from My Friends
How is this for a photo? Enjoying Italy flat on my back from my Calitri
bed, the only saving grace, the beautiful view beyond our balcony doors toward
Doctor Galgano's home on Monte Calvario! Just the man I needed to see and badly at that
moment. Let me explain.
I recall delivering newspapers as a kid. Each day when I entered
the Angler’s Bar and Grill in my
hometown, wizened men at the bar would call out, “Hey kid, what’s the number?” In those days, each day at the bottom of the newspaper's
front page, there was a long number.
Supposedly it was the US Treasury Balance. Appearing like clockwork as it did, just how
it was accurately determined and of what value it had, I have only one possible
explanation. It wasn’t that the bar
patrons or the newspaper publisher, for that matter, were interested in the
state of the nation’s finances. Not even
close. They were more interested in
their own fortunes, for the last few digits were a sort of roulette wheel of a
lottery! Mind you, this was long before
the advent to state lotteries and the ubiquitous scratch ticket. For all I knew there was some bookie down at
the press in charge. You can imagine how
popular a lad I was whenever I strode in, the herald of possible great fortune! Moreover, it was appreciated, for every
Friday in beloved routine, when I’d arrive with the expectant news, there at
the far end of the bar under a wall-mounted glass case, enshrining what in my
estimation was a gargantuan, all-time record lobster, with claws approaching
the size of catcher’s mitts, an iced orange soda awaited. Patrons and lobster aside, it was I who each
Friday was the winner! Throughout my
life, I've felt not lucky per se, more like fortunate. Things just seemed to fall into place and go
my way. It was as if someone were
looking out for me, some invisible mentor.
If you're spiritually minded, it's easy to imagine a sort of guardian
angel assigned
to guide and protect, something equivalent to
today's “helicopter mom” looking out for you.
I doubt it though, along with any skewed luck in my favor. My invisible mentor, turns out, was nothing more
than good old fashioned planning and persistence, put into action when
preparation came face to face with opportunity. Yet there are times things go wrong irrespective
of the best of plans or how hard you try.
Clearly, we are far from being in total control. Take for example this trip. Plan though I had, I hadn't planned for the
predicament I now found myself in, not even close. I couldn't walk, having developed what
my British friends might call an unfortunate alliance - me and pain! I'd now somehow
become the lobster, shielded by glass from the world outside, my mitts eager to
be doing something, anything, yet lying idle at my side.
My
malady hadn’t originated from some obvious trauma. A specific incident that put me down, eludes
me. Most likely, it was due to an
accumulation of self-inflicted physical insults to my frame the week following
our arrival in Calitri. Walking along
cobbled streets is the norm there, the only repercussion some much needed
exercise. It was opening up our long awaited
new terrace and preparing for guests that I suspect was the culprit. In understatement, I can say I had
overexerted myself. Never satisfied doing things by halves, I'd
overworked, all in a brief number of days. My "to-do-list" got the better of
me. There had been much to do … painting
the terrace walls a butterfly yellow from atop a ladder being just one. The killers I suspect were, in no particular
order, lugging a barbecue and bombola
gas-bottle in from the piazza then up the “Stairway to Heaven” to the terrace,
followed in the days to come by a patio table and six chairs. What the French call the “pièce de résistance”,
or in my case more appropriately the killer event, was transporting a cantilevered
umbrella and fixing it in place with four concrete slabs! Who was I kidding? As I kept busy, feeling nothing, my back accumulated
the abuse, all the while preparing to protest, going on strike in fact. As I said, it was insidious for it took about
a week before it hit me. At first all
was calm, then like an avalanche the pain struck. From his lofty terrace perch, “Big Bird” was
down and stayed that way, all told, for two weeks. A week into it I felt mended enough to take a
walk outside. That’s when the spasms
kicked in. I’d deceived myself on how I
felt. From that point on I couldn’t stand,
let alone get out of bed. I recall remarking to Maria Elena how
the muscle contractions I was experiencing had to have been close to birth
pains. Her only council was a smirky
look and a comment on how naive we males were.
It was enough for me, however, to believe that if roles were reversed
and men had to experience even this amount of pain in childbirth, there would
be very few babies and then only if the world had experienced a drastic dip in
population and we males had first received an order ordained by the UN, NSA,
the WHO, along with the endorsement of Toys-R-Us!
After a while, even with that beautiful view of Mount Calvario
rising from the base of the borgo and the doctor’s villa, guarded by five
majestic "pina" umbrella pines visible through ten toes beyond the
doors of our Juliet balcony, you can’t imagine how bored I’d become. Even a fly that insisted on circling and
circling and circling in front of the open balcony doors, occasionally joined
in formation by two more of its kind, lost its entertainment value. I gave up wondering how they managed to circle
for hours. Didn’t they get tired, as
tired as I was watching them? By then, the
easy 'one star' pages of my Sudoku puzzle booklet filled with ones through
nines, I was approaching the need for a mental health day, but then wasn’t
every day a mental health day in retirement!
I was literally retired, "retired" to my bed that is, all comfy
so long as I didn't move, but forever itching to somehow resurrect and get out
of there. This time around, we were
missing so much of Italy out there beyond our balcony portal on the world.
At the time it was nearing Halloween and the “trick”, not treat, was definitely on me. As I'd made my trips back and forth from the
town square piazza with my various loads, I was eventually accompanied by a black
cat. I’d always understood that when a
cat, which of course had to be black, crossed your path, it was believed to be
a harbinger of bad luck. I remember
thinking at the time that, just maybe, when it walks along ahead of you, not
crossing your path, it can’t be so terrible a case of bad luck, if any at all. Again, who was I fooling? Maybe myself but certainly not that cat?
Cats
aside, there were many theories among our local friends as
to how I’d come by this injury. However
they went, they would invariably circle around to the dreaded draft, seemingly the
root cause of all illness. For Italians, a key to staying well, one of life’s rules
it seems, was to avoid drafts at all costs.
Especially vulnerable was the neck.
This cause and effect rule had been ingrained in them from childhood,
its strict observance visibly evident by the coils of scarves around their
necks, regardless of the weather. I’d clearly
been attacked by the air! While the
scenery and food may be just phenomenal, Italian air is somehow bad, at times
deadly dangerous. God save you if it’s
moving! I’d apparently fallen victim to
the colpo d'aria or the "blast
of air" disease. It was much
like the time Mare developed a sore neck, a trip or so back. The antagonist in her case, it was explained,
was the air conditioner in our car or possibly its accomplice, again air, this
time from a cracked window. Whichever
the source, the blowing air on her neck had resulted in her physical symptom, a
painfully blocked eustachian tube. For
my ailment, the most interesting of theories was that I’d worked up a sweat
porting things and later working up on the new terrazzo. The breeze up there then went to work and voilà ,
the back pain developed followed whenever I moved by violent attacks of muscle
spasms. The
general belief being, if you sweat, you are definitely taking a risk and absolutely
asking for trouble if there is any air movement. Difficult though it may be for a foreigner like
me to understand, I couldn’t help but wonder how someone like Columbus, for
instance, with his sweating fellow Italian seafarers could have remained
healthy under their billowing sails!
Oh, I'd had back
problems before. I point an accusing
finger at my flying days, where flight after flight the weight of a parachute
on my back gradually took its toll. Tall
as I am, the spacer in the ejection seat, meant to support the weight of the
chute, was a smidgen too short for my long spine. Thereafter, my back pain gradually became my
new normal, coming in fits and starts.
The fits usually in the late spring and starts in the fall, seemingly
connected with work around the house, now apparently irrespective of which
house. It was easy to think of my body
as a used car, its odometer continuing to fill with road-weary miles, surely on
the order of 200,000 miles or so by now.
You’d hope all you needed to do was occasionally replace the windshield
wipers and change the oil, avoiding any serious problems with, for example, the
rear end or transmission. This time,
unfortunately, half a world away, I’d developed a major load-bearing axel
problem, clearly in the rear end!
Mare had stepped
in and picked up the slack. Beside
taking care of me, daily she made forays into town for whatever we might
need. It was part of the “for better or
worse” clause, here definitely tipped toward the worst side of things. We’d usually walked downtown together, but
now for the first time, Maria Elena was handling many of the things I usually
did … the bank, ATM machine, pharmacy, etc., if not accompanied by a friend,
then entirely on her own. After what had been happening and now my worsening
condition going on almost two weeks by then, Mare began to worry. How in God's name will we ever get home? Our return plans lay in waste. We needed a new plan for renewed hope. We could of course have just stayed longer,
until I mended, but Mare had issues herself, requiring medical attention, long
before I began playing "dead bug” and the “I can’t get up” routine. We needed to get back stateside. Thoughts
like "Would I need to be medivaced?” or "Could I wait this out?"
eventually became rational. In the end,
sort of a combination of both occurred.
It got to the point that, even without me, she went to a doctor’s office
for aiuto (help)! It proved to be what broke the logjam.
The lyrics of a
familiar Beatles refrain easily comes to mind, “Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends … Mm, gonna try with a
little help from my friends.” It's
true. As I write this only weeks
following our return, if it hadn’t been for the help of our Calitri friends, I
believe we might still be there. Once
our friends got involved, things began to happen very much for the better. Obsessed, as
Italians are, with getting well and staying well, I couldn’t have asked for
better backing (no pun intended). Many had
been involved and I know many more would have pitched-in if they had known of our
situation. Though I know I’m not remembering
everyone, here briefly is a list of those I especially recall helping out. In addition to shedding light on how each
lent a hand, it helps flesh-out a little more of the story.
·
Bernie
and Gerry, for though they left Calitri before my schiena (back) reached the spasm stage, they
gladly relocated an entire dinner party, really a feast, to our home when there
was no way I could get to theirs.
·
Titti,
while not feeling well herself, for serving as our Italian language
communications switchboard and coordinator, making calls to Canio and Peppe,
and who knows who where else, on my behalf.
·
Dr
Canio who saw Mare, accompanied by Gerri, in his office,
even while his mother lay dying from a stroke.
He initially provide her with oral medication to reduce the inflammation
and pain. His office closed only hours
later when his mother passed away.
·
Canio,
who we came to know from the construction of our terrazzo and who has since become
a cherished friend, for getting us a doctor, his doctor, to make a house call
to our home and giving me that first miracle shot in my rump! This after Canio realizing my predicament
after coming by with a crutch he thought might help me maneuver.
·
Dr
Antonio, Canio’s family physician, who at Canio’s behest made
an evening house-call after he closed his office, proclaiming “a friend of a
friend is also a friend”. At first, he
wanted me to come to his office the next day.
Once I explained that I couldn't get out of bed and my surprise that he
just wouldn't give me a shot right then, he reconsidered, opened his satchel
and administered the injection then and there.
As for the shot, I’m not sure what was in it – some combination of
cortisone and an anti-inflammatory. To
sooth my stomach, after the injection, he also prescribed an oral jell. I recall its vanilla flavor, remindful of the
yogurt snacks our grandkids inhale back home. His visit turned the tide and made all the
difference, giving us renewed hope I would be mobile enough to make a hastily
planned commercial flight. Hippocratic
Oath aside, don't let it be said doctors don't make house-calls anymore!
·
Peppe,
for his constant concern for my welfare beginning when he contacted his English
speaking daughter, way off in Asti, to call me when I’d not shown up, as
expected, for the grape harvest. Later when
Titti asked him about crutches, Peppe came right over only to depart and return
within 30 minutes with just the pair we needed for the flight home. The crutches arrived along with a bag of his
grapes of course!
·
Jim
who provided me with a Louis L'amour adventure novel, “Last of the Breed” (about
another downed pilot!) that keep me occupied as I lay there day after day (I’m
a slow reader).
·
Visitors Antonio, Sigi and Vincenzina who stopped by to see how we
were managing. I enjoyed their visits
for they took my mind off things and helped me pass the hours. It was especially nice of Sigi to offer to go
for a walk with Mare along the old Path
of Cupa in the countryside, close to town.
It got her out of the house for an afternoon away from miserable me.
·
Declan,
who while at the fish market heard I was ailing, came right over to offer us
any help we might need. He eventually
rented a car to drive us to the airport, arranged for a wheelchair with the
airlines at every stop and even came over to help Mare pack things away on the
terrazzo for the winter. He also brought
us DVDs to watch while I was lay there those many days. Too bad I couldn't make it to the TV!
·
Gerri,
for her wheels, continued support, phone calls and the numerous trips she made
with Maria Elena from start to end … to the doctor, the pharmacy, the post
office, phone store - all over town ... wonderfully supporting Mare as she picked up
the slack caused by my immobility and did everything to tie up loose ends
before we could depart.
·
Our neighbor, Teresa, for her rubbing alcohol, which per the doctor, no home
should be without. Of course, as you
might guess, in Calitri the only alcohol we had was the shelf type, for
drinking, not medicinal purposes. Not
surprisingly, when I proposed a bottle of Irish whiskey as a disinfectant before
that first injection, the doctor declined my offer with a smile. He needed something for my outside, not my
insides! I must have watched too many
Western movies. In the dark of the night,
Mare then went door to door only to return with the approved type of antiseptic,
thanks to Teresa.
·
Another neighbor, this one Gerarda,
who when the doctor also asked us for cotton balls, another thing no Italian home
should ever lack, came through by supplying our urgent need while the doctor
waited by my bedside. Here again, other
than for cotton tipped swabs in our medicine cabinet, we were deficient. A day later, when Mare followed-up and visited
Dr. Antonio's office, she surprisingly returned with additional hypos and drug
vials. They needed to be administered
nightly. When we hadn't a clue how to do
it, Gerarda contacted
her son, Gaetano, a male nurse for
help. While a doctor may prescribe an
injection, he only gives you a prescription for the meds. You, the patient, must then obtain the vials
and hypodermic needles at a pharmacy.
It's also up to you to find someone to administer the injection. This is not too difficult if you are mobile,
for there are laboratories and clinics where you can go have it done. If you can’t get out of the house, however,
you must find someone who is trained to administer injections to come to you. I can honestly say there was no way I was
going to do it to myself. Even Maria
Elena recoiled at the suggestion she might play doctor. Like a godsend, Gaetano came by after work in
the hospital to professionally perform the deed. He did this two nights in a row. The vials containing the miracle elixir were
also like none we’d ever seen. Instead
of having rubber topped caps to insert needles through for filling, these tops
were of glass. Most likely their design
was intended for one-time use. To fill a
needle, Gartano first had to snap off the top and then through the resulting opening,
insert the needle. He also had to
combine the contents of two different drugs from two different vials for each
injection - all of one and half of the other.
Better him than either of us!
Instead, God had provided the angle, Gaetano! Although I tensed each time, I never felt the
prick of the needles! He was that good,
although I never wish to call on his services again! Yes, as we discovered, things worked a little
differently in Italy or at least in Calitri.
We were after all raw recruits drawn into the Italian medical system by
circumstance.
·
Emma,
our house manager, who suggested we just leave the house on departure day,
offering to take care of cleaning things up, even taking care of the trash and
any recycling.
So there you have it,
the long and not so short of it - my downfall and my eventual medically
assisted resurrection. The shots were
enough to see us home. While now it is
an easy story to tell, at the time we had no idea where my plight would
lead. In the end, recovered to an
upright position once again, I wouldn't have been surprised if a baby, complete
with umbilical cord as in the ending scene of Kubrick's classic 2001: A Space Odyssey", hadn't
floated by displacing my now familiar orbiting companions by the balcony! I felt reborn. If you no longer hear any background violin
music playing, you can be assured that my woe is me story is now complete,
though again I doubt succinctly. All
that remains is for me to express my sincere thanks for the help of all those
who took part in helping to get me shipped home. I'll finish by simply saying that a friend is someone who changes your life for the
better just by being part of it, for a friend can make a dark and empty day suddenly
seem bright and full. Many might say,
"I'll be there when you say you need me" but the words that are unheard
from a true friend are, "I'll be there whether you say you need me or
not." I can vouch for the veracity
of this adage, and each and every one of my Samaritans. They all live in Calitri!
From that Rogue Tourist
Paolo
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